Hollywood Actresses Put Family First
By Diana Tyler, Contributing Writer
Actress Mila Kunis (“The Book of Eli,” “That ‘70s Show”) recently told W Magazine that after her baby with fiancé Ashton Kutcher is born, she plans to become a full-time mom. While most Bible-believing Christians would agree that Kunis’s having a child out of wedlock isn’t something to be celebrated, her decision to step out of the spotlight for a while in order to focus on her child is certainly commendable, especially when one considers the fame-seeking, celebrity-crazed, “selfie”-obsessed society in which we live.
Ms. Kunis isn’t the first actress to bid farewell to Hollywood’s glitz and glamour after becoming a mother.
Jennifer Garner (“13 Going on 30,” “Dallas Buyers Club”), who was named the 2012 Celebrity Mother of the Year by Today’s Parent Magazine, said after her first daughter was born that “having a baby fills your life in such a way that no matter what you’re doing, there’s something bigger.” Her husband Ben Affleck has praised her in several interviews for the wonderful supporting role she plays in their marriage as a loving and encouraging wife, as well as being a hands-on mother:
“She is by leaps and bounds the most important person to me. . .. Over the past 10 years she has allowed me to have a stable home life while accomplishing my professional goals.”
Reese Witherspoon (“Legally Blonde,” “Walk the Line”), Julia Roberts, Angelina Jolie, and Jessica Alba are also examples of successful actresses who thoughtfully plan their filmmaking schedules around their kiddos’ calendars.
Reese Witherspoon told iVillage, “I only do one movie a year so that’s about three months out of the year, and the rest of the time I’m kind of a stay-at-home mom. I have an office so I go to the office while the kids are at school. But, … I go to the basketball game and the horseback riding competitions and all that kind of stuff, and I really enjoy being a parent. It’s a real grounding experience. . . It’s fun.”
In an interview with the Daily Mail, “Nanny McPhee” star Emma Thomspon said, “You can’t be a great mum and keep working all the time. I wanted to spend more time with my family. A year off was my birthday present to myself. I didn’t actually act or write. I was just a mum. I highly recommend others to do the same, if they can afford it.”
“Sex and the City” star Sarah Jessica Parker told InTouch, “I’m at home for a lot of the year. I’m not always shooting movies. And, I want to make sure people know, stay-at-home moms are working harder than a lot of us can comprehend. It’s not easier at home!”
Being a mom not only inspired Jessica Alba to embrace her maternal side, but also to start The Honest Company, a family and eco-friendly brand that provides natural diapers, body care, and non-toxic cleaning products. She also founded the Baby2Baby charity.
Alba shared with Los Angeles Confidential that she “[loves] everything about [being a parent]. . . I didn’t even know it was possible to have this much love and joy and happiness in my life. It’s overflowing, unconditional, and selfless. I never experienced that type of thing before I had kids.”
In her interview with W Magazine, Mila Kunis explained, “I have never wanted to be the person who only has business on her mind. To me, this job has always been a hobby that turned into a great profession, but I don’t eat and breathe acting. I’m sure Meryl Streep has a very different point of view. But I’m excited about being a full-time mom.”
Though actress Kirsten Dunst (the original “Spider-Man” trilogy) is not yet a mother, she shared her views on femininity with the U.K. edition of Harper’s Bazaar back in May, stating:
“I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued. We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking — it’s a valuable thing my mom created.”
The actress continued, offering her opinion on the topic of relationships:
“And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armor. I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man, and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work.”
Not surprisingly, her statements elicited an uproar of mockery and vitriol on social media and feminist blogs. “Jezebel” (interesting title for a blog if you ask me!) blogger Erin Gloria Ryan titled her reaction to Dunst’s remarks, “Kirsten Dunst Thinks Ladies in Relationships Should Wife the [expletive] Out” and wrote that Dunst, an “actress and blonde who looks good in clothes,” is “dumb about [gender theory]” because she isn’t paid to write about it.
On Uproxx.com, Stacey Ritzen called Dunst an “insufferable person,” titling her write-up, “Kirsten Dunst Thinks That Women Should Know Their Place Is In The Home,” which isn’t, by any stretch, what Dunst said at all.
While it’s true that neither Dunst nor most of you reading have controversial, politically correct Ph.D.s in “Women and Gender Studies,” we do have at our disposal the ultimate resource on gender roles – the Bible.
As followers of Christ, the world and its fickle, ever-changing attitudes and opinions on issues such as gender, marriage and morality is not to inspire the way we lead our lives, nor is it to inform our identities. On the contrary, the immutable, transcendent, inerrant Word of God is the His divinely-breathed guidebook, if you will, from which we are to discover truth, seek wisdom, find peace, and obtain answers that may all fly in the face of what our current culture has deemed popular, enlightened, or “progressive.” Second Timothy 3:16 says:
“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right” (NLT).
So, what does Scripture have to say about the duties of women?