Should You Really Follow Your Heart? Why That’s Bad Advice

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By Michaela Gordoni

Candace Cameron Bure and Pastor Jonathon “JP” Pokluda recently got together to talk about how what the heart wants usually isn’t good.

“Your heart works like Netflix. Do you guys know what I mean by that?” Pokluda said on Bure’s podcast.

“Yeah,” Bure said. “…It sees what you watch and what you’re feeding it and then it keeps giving you suggestions of the next thing that you should watch based on the algorithm of what you’ve liked and given a thumbs up and continue to watch.”

Pokluda emphasized that the heart wants what it’s fed. So if you listen to a lot of explicit music or if you watch a lot of explicit shows, that’s what it will crave.

“When you introduce something toxic like pornography or a million other things, you know, it it’s gonna pull you offside. It’s going to take you somewhere. And that’s in conjunction [with]…the flesh, the demonic and the world.”

All of those things work together to pull people away from God.

“I’m not talking about salvation. I’m talking about intimacy with God, you feeling close to Him, you growing spiritually under Him,” he said. “They do not want that.”

“And they’re going to appeal to your flesh with the world to pull you out of right relationship with God,” he added.

Bure shared that she was reading a script when she saw the writer included dialogue that said, “follow your heart.”

She contacted him and asked him if he would change the message, because the heart isn’t what we should follow; the truth and what’s right are.

“Then I saw him a couple of days later and he goes, ‘You know, I looked that up on Google because I’ve never heard that follow your heart is a bad thing…and so we got into this conversation and he said, ‘But is your is your heart always bad? Like is it always leading you to bad things? Should I never trust my heart?’”

Bure told him that he needs to know what right and wrong is, because the heart will often deceive you.

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Pokluda explained, “The Holy Spirit says, ‘Hey, it now just, hey, just follow me. I’ll drive in front of you. You just follow me.’”

“This is what Jesus does. This is what it means to have the Holy Spirit,” Pokluda continued. “…We have this kind of moral code and the scripture, the Holy Spirit rather, as we walk with an understanding of God’s word, as we’re not seeking to sin, the spirit is guiding us.”

Bure has said previously that she doesn’t promote the “follow your heart” message.

She said in a podcast last year, “One of [the lines] that’s always been a really big theme in Christmas movies is to follow your heart — [it’s also] in a lot of rom-coms. But the Bible says that the heart is wicked and deceitful above all things. That’s Jeremiah 17:9. So we’re actually not to follow our heart, but to follow the wisdom that God gives us.”

Pastor Carey Huffman calls the “follow your heart” message “Disney theology” or a “Hallmark worldview.”

He says, “Psalm 37:4 says, ‘Take delight in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.’ Notice it doesn’t say that He’ll give you whatever your heart desires. Instead, when you surrender control your life to the One who created it, and He becomes your greatest passion, He’ll literally give you new desires.”

“He’ll then fulfill those desires (the ones He gave you) when you take delight in him,” he explained.

It’s important to follow truth and always remember that what God wants for us is better than what we want.

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