This Tip Could Reframe Your Parenting Perspective
By Movieguide® Contributor
Dr. Josh and Christi Straub joined Candace Cameron Bure’s podcast to discuss how a key perspective parents should keep in mind when raising their kids.
“I remember when Christi would say this to me a few years back. She says, ‘I hate the word parenting.’ I’m like, ‘Why do you not like the word parenting so much?’ And I think part of it came out of your own story,” Dr. Josh said. “It really comes to this place of understanding that parenting comes with this assumption that we can change another person. We can change our children. And the reality is, is we can’t really change anybody.”
“The only person we can truly change and take 100% responsibility for is ourselves,” he emphasized.
“And when you look at the research, you can pretty much sum up all of parenting research into one primary conclusion,” he added. “And that’s that our kids become who we are. And the reason for that is because more is caught than taught.”
Parenting and helping families succeed has been at the forefront of Josh and Christi’s life, and they have now turned it into an organization called Famous at Home.
Through their organization, the Straubs “help leaders and families cultivate emotional connection and spiritual growth.”
Josh often shares different tips on his social media accounts to encourage his followers that putting in the hard work will help them in the long run.
In one post, he listed four things that he resisted doing that day: “Working out,” “listening prayer (just making time to sit in God’s presence and listen),” “playing trains with my four-year-old” and “taking an oatmeal bath.”
However, it turns out that those four things “were the four things that brought me the most life.”
“We can’t afford not to make the time for things we most resist. Find what those are for you and make them the first priorities in your schedule each day,” he urged.
Movieguide® previously reported on the Straubs’ parenting advice:
On a recent episode of the Candace Cameron Bure podcast, Dr. Josh and Christi Straub spoke about how to create an “emotionally healthy home environment” as parents…
“So, for me, I look at the moments of our lives, I look at the moments with my children, and I just kind of see through that lens of ‘how can I take the good into my relationship with my kids?’’ he explained.
He said how, as parents, we so often are hard on ourselves, fearing what kind of memories we are creating for our kids, but even he remembers the good from his childhood more often than the bad. “What our kids are truly experiencing, I think, is a real important question to ask, even them to check in with them from time to time to go, ‘What feels peaceful right now in our home to you?’”
Josh believes it’s important to be mindful of the environment in your household.
“If we don’t pay attention to the environment of the home, the world will define that environment for us,” he emphasized.
