Why This Actress Dresses Modestly: Gotta ‘Feel Good About it Between Me and God’
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FULL HOUSE’s Candace Cameron Bure, her daughter, Natasha, and influencer Allie Schnacky recently got together to talk about modesty—something that they’ve all felt convicted about in their faith.
“Growing up on television really shaped my view of fashion,” Bure explained. “One of my favorite things to do before every episode of Full House was go into the costume department and you would get fitted… Knowing that every week I was going to go into this closet that wasn’t mine and they were getting clothes for me to wear was so exciting and that gave me a sense of loving fashion and style.”
But her journey with fashion wasn’t so simple—as she’s struggled with knowing what’s acceptable to wear.
Bure had a pivotal moment about 15 years ago at one family Thanksgiving. She wore a top that showed a lot of cleavage—something she didn’t notice when dressing. After some family members gently pointed it out to her, she realized the way she dressed didn’t respect herself or God.
“It was one of those things that I had to sit on it and really pray over it because it didn’t feel good to hear it, but when I prayed and asked God… ‘What is it that you want me to learn?… Can you just help me to process this because it really isn’t my intention to do that but I also don’t want to make other people feel uncomfortable.’ …At the end of the day, my conclusion that I’ve come to is that I have to feel good about it between me and God. I also want to feel good about it between me and my husband.”
Natasha shared, “I know I did certainly not dress modestly at all, especially when I had graduated high school. I think it’s similar with anything, if you get a reaction one time, maybe and you kind of see heads turning or something like that, there is like a little rush of excitement. Like, okay, I got a little bit of attention for wearing this so maybe I’m going to wear it again and so I remember when I was, you know, I had graduated high school and I started going out with all of these new friends. I adopted their style, which honestly just was not how I would have dressed myself and I remember it got a lot of male attention.”
“And at the time, maybe I liked a guy or you know whatever and I was like, okay, well maybe this is going to help,” Natasha continued, “or things like that and then we had this conversation just you know earlier about heart posture and you know why am I wearing the things that I’m wearing is it because I’m comfortable and I actually feel really beautiful in this, or is it to get somebody’s attention? And I think when I really started to take a step back and realize, okay I would be wearing this because I want attention, versus like I’m wearing this because it makes me feel confident and I feel empowered and I’m loving the way that this is styled, that’s where I have to take a step back and say, okay, I need to adjust some things.”
In 2023, Natasha said she used to think showing more skin was “more attractive.”
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Allie shared that she previously dressed in a way that showed “a lot of skin” and sometimes felt harshly judged.
“When you’re a Christian, if you go out one time into the wrong place where Christians are and you’re not wearing what they like, they’ll make it known to you and a lot of times not in a nice, loving way,” she explained. “…I even felt…there was no grace or real love in the conversations at all and something I wish I would have been told was that modesty is a complete journey because, truthfully, what I wore three years ago that I had no conviction about—and I loved God I was pursuing him—I probably wouldn’t wear now just because I really believe that God refines you for the next place that he has for you and I have so many stories that God has just done refining who I am, how I view myself and a lot of it has to do with my heart posture.”
“I remember this time in particular, I had invited this guy to meet me at my church, and before the service I was just in my room stressing out, panicking,” Schnacky said. “Clothes were flinging across the room… I remember in my heart, like the Lord saying, ‘Allie, you better put on your sweatpants and wear no makeup. Wet your hair and go to church. The purest simple form of who you are, because if this guy is really who I have for you, he is going to be attracted to what’s inside of you, not just what you look like.’”
Schnacky shared verses she loves, 1 Peter 3:3-4: “’Your beauty should not come from outward adornment such as braiding your hair or gold Jew jewelry or fine clothes but the inner disposition of your heart, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is very precious in the Lord’s sight.’”
Reading that verse reminds her that she should dress from her heart’s standards, not the world’s.
Going back to her story, Schnacky said, “It would be easy for me to say when I went I felt so confident or whatever but I really didn’t. I went to church. I was obedient. I just looked like trash in my opinion, but I was so confident that I knew the Lord had called me to do that and that if this was what he had for me, he was going to love me for who I am—the part about me that’s not going to fade away.”
“So I met this guy this night; we had a great time and he ended up liking me and I remember in that moment like it healed something on the inside of me. Like, I don’t have to seek approval from people by just my exterior, but really the interior is the most interesting thing about me. Something me and Natasha both say is the way that you look is the least important thing about you,” she added.
Bure previously shared that she had to be especially diligent with modesty on DANCING WITH THE STARS.
“There was one time [dance partner] Mark [Ballas] choreographed a dance and there was one particular move in the dance I was uncomfortable with,” she said. “I showed my husband a videotape of it, and he was uncomfortable with it as well, and that confirmed it wasn’t right, and I had to ask Mark to change the move, which Mark so graciously did.”
If you want to explore whether you’re dressing modestly in your own life, you can ask yourself, “Is my appearance reflecting my heart and honoring God, or does it dishonor him?” Seek God and look at what the scripture has to say about it. 1 Peter 3:3-4 is a great start.
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