YOU ARE SO NOT INVITED TO MY BAT MITZVAH is a comedy on Netflix. A seventh grade girl, Stacey Friedman, encounters many teenage woes as she prepares for her impending Bat Mitzvah. Stacey finds herself at odds with her best friend, Lydia, thanks to Stacey’s own selfishness and poor choices. Things go from bad to worse when Stacey inadvertently ruins her only true friend’s Bat Mitzvah celebration. She tries to make amends with a redemptive, heartfelt gesture. However, can Stacey’s change of heart undo the damage?
YOU ARE SO NOT INVITED TO MY BAT MITZVAH has a painful first half showcasing the boisterous crudity that usually marks an Adam Sandler project. However, the movie manages to make something of its plot and characters in the second half. For example, the young female lead character learns to become more selfless, and she and her family look out for one another. The movie also has positive references to God and prayer, in a Jewish setting. However, the movie has excessive foul language, some crude and lewd associated with the young characters, and politically correct content.
Dominant Worldview and Other Worldview Content/Elements:
Mixed pagan worldview with some strong Romantic “follow your heart” moments, some biblical, moral and redemptive elements where the main characters talk about God, go to their Jewish temple and pray and the young heroine learns to become more selfless and a better friend, but a female rabbi solves problems by saying, “God is random,” and the faith of the characters is a light Judaism without Christ, and there are some politically correct woke elements
At least 17 obscenities, two strong profanities (one involving Jesus), more than 20 light profanities, and four obscene gestures
Some boys hit each other with foam bats, a man runs into a car and gets hit with an airbag, and a man yells at his daughter, and she returns the favor
Strong sexual, crude content overall includes sexual slang and words and phrases are often on the tongues of the pre-teenage children, 13-year-olds and adults, an LGBTQ+ flag appears in the background in one scene set in a school, a young girl asks another girl if she only likes boys, another girl says, “Some of us are straight”, a girl fake practices oral sex with another girl who is sleeping (movement shown), a man talks about humping a parking meter
No actual nudity, but teenage girls wear some skimpy clothes such as bikini tops
Social drinking at multiple events, plus an older woman gives teenagers alcohol and is clearly drunk herself
Smoking and/or Drug Use and Abuse:
No smoking or drug use, but drugs are mentioned in one scene in a comical moment; and,
Some people lie, but the truth wins out in the end.
In the Netflix movie, YOU ARE SO NOT INVITED TO MY BAT MITZVAH, a seventh grade girl, Stacey Friedman, encounters more than her fair share of teenage woes as she prepares for her impending Bat Mitzvah. Against the advice of her best friend, Stacey foolishly jumps off a ledge into a lake to grab the attention of a popular boy. Stacey then blames her best friend, Lydia, for how her attempt failed.
Finding herself at odds with her best friend thanks to her own selfishness and poor choices, things go from bad to worse for Stacey. Having inadvertently ruined her only true friend’s Bat Mitzvah celebration, she tries to make amends in a redemptive and heartfelt gesture. However, can Stacey’s realization and change of heart undo the damage she inflicted on her best friend?
The latest movie from Adam Sandler’s production company depicts the melodramatic life of a modern-day Jewish teenage girl from New York with often painful accuracy. In typical Sandler fashion, the movie’s first half is boisterous, crude and often offensive. However, the movie manages to make something decent of its plot and characters in the second half. Adam Sandler’s character, an old school Jewish dad, is often humorous as he tries to navigate the tempestuous seas of his younger daughter’s approaching big day.
The movie’s worldview is a mix of Romantic, biblical, moral, and even Christian content. Since the story is set in a Jewish family, the main characters talk about God, go to temple and pray. The movie’s main positive messages are being selfless and learning the virtue of true friendship. However, the Christian and moral elements are distorted by many things. For example, the story involves a Judaism without Christ. Also, a female rabbi tries to solve problems by saying, “God is random.” In addition, the movie includes some politically correct elements affirming homosexuality as a viable option. Also,
sexual slang, words and phrases are often on the tongues of the pre-teen children, 13-year-olds and adults. Finally, the movie has an implicit “follow your heart” mentality as Stacey somehow figures out that life would be better for her personally if she becomes selfless.
The main family’s Jewish roots are clear throughout YOU ARE SO NOT INVITED TO MY BAT MITZVAH. The family has a solid, though inconsistent version of Judaism, but the father, mother and children love and look out for each other. The main character is self-absorbed and foolish in the beginning but eventually learns to be selfless. She also prays regularly. However, the glaring problem of Judaism without Christ makes the personal growth of the characters stunted at best. So, for that and other reasons, MOVIEGUIDE® believes YOU ARE SO NOT INVITED TO MY BAT MITZVAH is excessive and unacceptable.
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